What are some of the parenting styles or techniques that your parents or guardian have used on you? Did these techniques have an effect on your behavior? In a positive or negative way?
I was brought up by non-traditional indulgent parents through what I would call permissive parenting style (McGolerick, 2011). My parents allowed me to have everything I wanted, go wherever I wanted and do anything I wanted to do as long as I did not do anything wrong to anyone. Although my parents never allow me to steal or fight, they always allowed me to leave the house at any time without monitoring where I go. The only kind of authoritative parenting style I experienced was when I was very young and my parents would not allow me to go out alone because they worried that I would get lost. However, when I was about 12 years old, my parents allowed me to go out with friends. They bought foe me anything I wanted. I don’t remember any time in my life when I requested something from my parents and they refused.
This style contributed positively to my behaviour. My social interaction with my friends improved and I felt free and confident. I also became communicative with my parents and I did not fear anything. This made me happy all the time because I got everything I wanted to make my life complete. This parenting style also made me mature and self-controlled. However, I also developed some negative behaviour because my parents did not supervise me. For instance, I lacked respect for elderly people when I was 12-15 years old.
Another parenting style that I grew up with is attachment parenting. I developed a strong emotional bond with my parents because my parents were closed attached to me, especially when I was young (below 12). This parenting style played along well with permissive parenting style because my parents responded well to all my needs as suggested by Bernstein (2011). They were also available for me all the time. This style helped me to become more emphatic, secure, and peaceful. This developed my behaviour positively because my parents were always close to teach me what is wrong and what is right.
Bernstein, D. A. (2011). Essentials of psychology. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth.
McGolerick, E.W. (2011). 5 Parenting styles for a new generation. Accessed May 22, 2014 from http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/819528/5-parenting-styles-for-a-new- generation.